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Real + Faith: Navigating Uncertainty
Do you ever feel like you're trying to navigate life with a blindfold on? Join Tierra Sade and Coach Bri as they open up about the challenges of trusting in God when the future feels as clear as mud. They share personal stories of faith, struggle, and surrender, with the hope of reinforcing your faith muscles during those tough moments when you're waiting for guidance and clarity.
Just like children trust their parents without needing all the answers, we are encouraged to trust in God’s purpose and presence in our lives. Whether facing past traumas or starting new ventures, remember that our journey has purpose, and by recognizing our calling, we can rise above the fear in uncertainty.
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Welcome to the Real Refined Podcast, where faith in the mind meets. I'm your host, brie, and I'm your host, tiara, tap in. Hello, real Refined fam, welcome back. We are back with another one. Another one, we are back with another episode and I'm so excited to just talk to y'all again and be with my girl T. How you doing? I'm good. Can I ask you how you were doing in the last episode? I feel like I don't know. I'm good, I'm happy. I can't complain. I could, but I won't. I was going to say I think we all could Like the song.
Speaker 1:Sang what song? I won't complain. I won't complain. I like that song. I've had some good days that one. I like that.
Speaker 1:Book T for your next event. Please don't. She can really sing it, please don't. I will stand at the front and stage fright. Please don't do it. She can sing. She can really sing for real y'all. Just to the Lord now. But anyway, I'm glad you're doing okay. But anyway, I'm glad you're doing okay. You look amazing. Thank you, I was trying to give y'all a holiday vibe. You know what I'm saying, but the vibe is here, thank you. I like it. I like you too. Thank you, friend. I love the pleat at the bottom. Oh, thank you. I can't wait to show my man this outfit.
Speaker 1:I mean he going to talk about faith during uncertain times, like, have you ever been in a situation where you know if you're gonna make it, like you don't know what's gonna happen next and the only thing that you have to do, of course we, we think the only thing we do is I'll be anxious, but is trust god, like, have you been in a place like that where it's like, god, I'm just gonna have to trust you, but I feel like it's hard. Have you been there before, man? What? Ask me if I'm in it now? Are you in it right now? Oh, yes, you are. Yes, I am.
Speaker 1:Um, it's tough. Yeah, I mean, we, we, we all know what faith is. We all know that, um, like, the word says that it is impossible to please God without faith. We know faith is the, the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. We know all of this stuff, but when it comes down to being in a situation where you are literally unsure of the outcome, and then, on top of that, when the odds are stacked against you that part Like in real life that is.
Speaker 1:It's really challenging to really operate in faith. It's hard, yeah, I, for me, I find that it's most challenging to trust, and I and I say that because if you're a person, a lot of us want to see things, to believe it, right. Um, in reference to what you just said, like we want to be able to see it, feel it, smell, whatever, in order to say that this is actually true and that we can actually obtain it. But I feel like with faith, it's really hard because you can't see it right away. And I think for me and I could say probably just in general, because we are a microwave society, when we want things, things to happen, instead of just trusting that God is going to make it happen for us If it's according to His will, let me just say that when we're wanting to be in that space, it's really hard to wait, to just pray, ask for whatever you're going to ask for, or really ask God what he's wanting to do in your life and just wait. That waiting period is crazy, though Insane, because it'd be like knocking on uh, god you ready, yet am I? Do I have the blessing yet? Did you tell me yes, yet is it no? Like, whatever it is.
Speaker 1:But I experienced a really big transition this year to where I had no choice but to just trust whatever god said was next in the hardest part for me, hand raised. I'm a person who operates in wanting total control and because of that I guess I'm coming out of it. But trusting God 100%, I mean when I say trusting him, I mean with finances, I mean with my children, I mean with my marriage, home life, whatever it is. I used to have a really big problem like full surrender, because we say we surrender all to God, but do we really man what? We can say it, but are you 100 percent surrender, meaning like if he tells you to move tomorrow or right now, are you trusting him 100 percent to do that? I wasn't there before, but this year and it doesn't have to be only in uncertain times I think we should trust God in general and it doesn't have to be only in uncertain times. I think we should trust God in general.
Speaker 1:But I feel like when you're exercising your trust muscle and your faith muscle even more, when you're in a situation where you have no choice but to just wait on what's gonna happen next, you don't know what's gonna happen next? But back to me being in control. Because I wanted to control the outcome so much and the next step so much, it was really hard for me to just say, okay, god, whatever you say, like I know that you have a plan for me, I know you want what's best for me. I know that you want what best, what's best for my family. You're gonna protect my kids. I know these things, but do I believe it? Yeah, I think that's the hard part. We can know it, but do you 100% believe that God is going to be the one to really put you on the right path? And I think we have a lot to do with it too. Because we're not fully, because we don't fully have faith in what he's going to do in this uncertain time, we start making our own plans and plan B and our escape plans and different routes and all these other things. So my lesson this year has just been trust 100%, not trust. But not trust if not trust when it's whatever. It is 100%. God, I trust you. Ooh, that's hard. The trust if the trust when that's real that's hard. Yeah, a really hard lesson.
Speaker 1:What are your thoughts? Something that I've been saying this last half of the year is. I don't want to just believe in God, I want to believe God. Yes, when I say I believe in God, ok, I know that there's something out there that runs everything and that has the ultimate say so, that runs everything and that has the ultimate say so. But when I believe him, that means that when I open his word, whatever his promises are, I was just reading a scripture in Isaiah last night. I want to say it's in Isaiah 53 or it might be verse 53 of some other chapter, but it talks about he will hear your prayers before you even ask them. He'll answer them before you even ask prayers, before you even ask them. He'll answer them before you even ask. And if I believe in God, that doesn't necessarily mean that I believe that when I pray for something, he's already heard me before I even asked him. I think that it is difficult when you are staring something in the middle of the face and there's no evidence around you that this is going to work out. Um, and I, really, when you talk about this, I'm thinking about Noah, and you know we we talk about him now as like this pillar of faith and this righteous man.
Speaker 1:But do you know how insane it is to hear an instruction from God to build a boat in preparation for a flood in a place where it doesn't rain. This wasn't just a one day commitment or a moment commitment. I think about the times where God has said something to me and in the moment and it think about the times where God has said something to me and in the moment and it talks about this in the new Testament, one of Jesus' parables. In the moment, I hear the word from God and I'm excited Like wow, god speaks. God told me this, god said that this is going to happen for me, and then, in the days to follow, you just go back to regular life. You don't hold on to the word, you know. You just go back to doing regular things and then later on down the line, something comes up that directly opposes what you heard. God say, right, yeah, and then you forget all about it.
Speaker 1:So, thinking about what Noah did, it's not just a big deal, because he did it and there was an actual flood. It took him years to build this ark, like years to build it, and I can only imagine his family and the other people that were around him, the things that he heard, I mean the town paper saying the crazy man is out in the desert building a boat. Like you know how people are. I can only imagine the opposition that he had in doing that. Only imagine the opposition that he had in doing that. And he had to really be committed to what he heard God say that one time to continue building something that took several years to finish. And in the meantime we like to look for God winks, which you know, I get it In the meantime. If that was me, I would be like, well, maybe it'll rain, to show me that it's possible for it to even rain here. Yeah, no, he's in a desert, like there's no rain until the day where the actual flood comes.
Speaker 1:And I think that that is the difficult part. I think we receive the word very well. We get excited about it, you know, in those quiet moments when we hear God say something, or when we receive a prophetic word from somebody, or even you know just when we see something in the word of God. But I think the day to day commitment and that's what the real faith is to what we heard God say, that is where the difficult part comes in, because life be lifing and usually God gives us that word I can think about.
Speaker 1:In my own life, god has told me something, and I believe he told me because the test was coming up, to challenge what he already said. He knew that the circumstances were going to be in such a place where I could be convinced that it's not going to happen, so that's why he told me before it even happened. He tells people you're going to have a baby, like he told Elizabeth John the Baptist's mother. He told Mary you're going to have a baby, before King Herod put out the hit on all the babies. But he tells you so that when the opposition comes, like the Bible says in Timothy, you use the prophetic word that was spoken over you that you might wage a good warfare. The fact that I told you this, this is what you use to combat whatever your circumstances are, that's good, but it's hard to do that.
Speaker 1:Can you imagine, like a woman getting pregnant and God speaking to her something about this child, what the child's name is going to be, what the child's going to do her? Something about this child, what the child's name is going to be, what the child's going to do, and then your doctor tell you you have a you know a topic pregnancy or whatever the case and you need to terminate this pregnancy because your child is not going to make it and you could possibly lose your life. Like the reality of that. That's exactly how it actually happens. You don't receive a word and then just get to skip off into the sunset and have fun until it comes. Like, sometimes God gives you that word so that you can contend for it. Hey, I just told you a word. Now you need to be praying Because the enemy not going to just let you have a business that's actually changing people's lives. You think he's just going to. My dad tells me that all the time. You think the devil just going to sit around and let you just be used by god and do what god said you was gonna do and have it and be able to do it easily, with no resistance. That part, that's the reality.
Speaker 1:But I also it's really hard, oh my gosh. I'm thinking about the fact that we really let me make sure I say this correctly, so I don't want to offend nobody I think you said do it. I feel like we do a lot of no. I mean, I don't think it's gonna offend anybody, but we sabotage. A lot like self-sabotage, just to what you're saying, like God told you this and he said this. And when I think about self-sabotage, I think about the root of what it could be, because when we're sabotaging, there's a reason why we're self-sabotaging. Maybe way back in our childhood, like we talked about.
Speaker 1:It takes that one little lie, that one little moment where the enemy comes and he tells you well, you're really not going to have this baby, you're really not going to do so, and so you're really not going to have this baby, you're really not going to do so-and-so. And to your point, like a praying about it and making sure that we are. I know God, you said this to me, but I have to make sure that I don't allow the enemy to come and steal this, like that's really powerful. But I think, because we're so, what is it that I want to say? Because I don't want to say that we're people who what is it that I want to say? Because I don't want to say that we're people who? No, it is.
Speaker 1:God makes all of these promises and we don't believe him. I think that's just what it comes down to, like he makes a lot of promises and he keeps those promises, but I and I know I've already said this, but they're conditional you don't just, you don't just get the business that's changing people a lot, people's lives. Oh, I'm just going to hand it to you there's going to be war and we're literally in a spiritual war, like we're at a war every single day and I feel and I already said it in this episode but the biggest issue that I experienced, and I think the biggest issue we have in general with faith, is a lack of trust. Yeah, so God, you said that you promised this to me, but why do we? Why is there even a but? After that, you said I'm going to have this baby. You said I'm going to have this business. You said I'm going to be changing lives, I'm going to be teaching people, like you said I'm going to do all of this, but. But we sabotage because we we may not feel worthy enough to even carry on. Whatever it is that he's given us, we don't feel worthy of it.
Speaker 1:But that's on a different tangent. I know we're talking about uncertainty, but I think a lot of the time, the other side of the transition or life or whatever it is like, the other side of the uncertainty. We don't know what's there, and it's very uncomfortable when you don't know what's going to happen next. When you have no idea what tomorrow is going to be like, that's where anxiety comes in. Well, you have no idea. Okay, am I going to be able to pay my bills? Am I going to be able to get a job? I would never forget, in this transition this year, applying for so many pm like positions well qualified, actually rejected, rejected, rejected only for me to be a business owner doing what I love anyway.
Speaker 1:But it's, it was one of those things where, when it, when you're dealt this card, this hand, you know what I'm saying. Like that's all you know when you see, and that's all you're thinking is going to happen. So, because God has a bigger plan for you, it's just like, well, no, these are my hands, this is the hand that I'm dealt, I want to play with, this is what I'm playing. I'm playing this card, these cards, right here.
Speaker 1:But if we just flat out say like God forgive me, I don't trust you, I feel like it'll be, I feel like there's going to be. There's such a release if we're just honest. But we sit up and we lie To ourselves Exactly to ourselves and even to others and to God. Like God, I trust you when you don't, yeah, let's just keep it a book. So what do you even do in that situation when you know for a fact that you are not fully trusting? Like, how would you, what would you tell someone who, in fact, they really want to trust God, but they, they feel like they can't.
Speaker 1:So I want to say also that, like, when we talk about the resistance to the promise is basically what we're talking about. I'm not talking about because we know that this is a spiritual thing, but we live in a very natural, we have a very natural existence. So, like, the resistance is not just voices in your head telling you this is not going to happen, you're crazy, god don't love you. Like, it's not that. It is very natural things, there is science, there is very natural, tangible things saying this is not possible for you. And I think one of the things that we have to hold on to when we are in those situations and I know it sounds so like girl, I'm going to say it anyway Remembering who God is is so powerful, because I'm saying, like, in the case of the person that is is, you know, promised that you know you're going to have a child.
Speaker 1:Science is saying this is not possible Medically. This is not going to happen for you. We have to remember that we serve a God that is not subject to science. He is omniscient, meaning that does not contain him. So remembering God's nature, remembering that he cannot lie, that he wouldn't tell you something, just to take it back, like remembering who he is really, is the key to like overcoming that and challenging yourself to ask do I really believe him?
Speaker 1:I mean and that's a it sounds like such a dumb question to ask you know, when you you call yourself a believer, but when you're in circumstances, it really just comes down to do I believe the science or do I believe God? Do I believe what the situation is saying? To? Do I believe the science or do I believe God? Do I believe what the situation is saying or do I believe God? Do I believe the reality or do I believe God? Do I believe what the perceived facts are or do I believe God? He operates in areas where there is uncertainty and the only thing that we have to do is to push ourselves to believe him over what we see. It's not easy. It's a process. Like I said, with Noah building the ark, that was years. I'm sure there had to have been days when they know it got up to go work on that ark and was like I don't even know if I'm supposed to be doing. If it's gonna rain for real, yeah, but it's not even about that.
Speaker 1:Your belief can waver, but your faith is in. I'm going to keep going in that direction. You know, the doctor said that I'm not going to make this pregnancy. I could be shaken by that. I'm a human, like I'm a person, but my faith says no, I'm gonna go to another doctor. Or my faith says that no, I'm going to, I'm not going to to terminate this pregnancy, or you know what I'm saying. Like the humanity and the thoughts that we have that comes with that, I feel like that's fine. I think that God has provision and grace for that, but I think the faith is I'm going to keep moving in this direction. Anyway, god told me that I'm going to have this business and I'm going to do this thing, but then, you know, I'm having issues with filing paperwork or I'm not able to get any consistent clients, or you know, this thing is not working. I'm gonna keep trying. Like that's the faith part. It's not even. It's really not even about how you feel, for real faith is not an emotion, it's. I'm going to continue taking steps towards this thing, because God said that this is what I'm supposed to be doing. Yeah, easier said than done, but it can be done. I'm one to be doing. Yeah, easier said than done, but it can be done.
Speaker 1:I'm one of the people that believe like and I told my nutritionist this. I said I'm one of the people that believes that if I don't like something, I can make myself like it over time If I just keep doing it. If I don't like working out, if I don't like working out, if I don't like eating certain foods that I'm supposed to be eating, I believe that I can learn to like it by just doing it like I'm. I don't like brussels, but I'm gonna eat brussels sprouts if I, if that's what I need. I feel like it's the same thing with faith. Like you don't have to be a hundred percent sold in order to just do it. Wow, we do stuff on autopilot all the time. Like we just do stuff just to do it all the time. You don't have to be 100% sold. That's why God says, if you just have faith the size of a mustard seed, because there's going to be days in building something it doesn't. It feels like this is a waste. I don't understand why I'm doing this. Did I really hear you? But I'm gonna keep showing up and that's the hard part, because you have to make a habit of doing something that feels unnatural to you over a period of time, and that's not. That's not easy to do. It's not listening to you I was of time and that's not easy to do. It's not Listening to you.
Speaker 1:I was thinking about how choosing faith it's a decision that we have to make. We get to choose. I always talk about choices and everything, and I teach the kids about that too. You know, whatever you choose, there's an outcome to that Procrastination. Whatever it is time management, there's going to always be an outcome to that procrastination. Whatever it is time management, there's going to always be outcome to the decisions that we make daily, good or bad.
Speaker 1:And so, as you were speaking, I was thinking about how choosing to trust God and choosing content to continue forward like that, or even choosing not to like, you're still making a choice. Yeah, you still get to decide. Like I'm going to press forward anyway, as opposed to, well, I don't know what's going to happen next, so I won't do anything. Or well, I don't know what's going to happen next, so I'm just not going to trust. Like, why is these things always happening to me? There's always going to be something and I know that we're going to experience the setbacks. There's going to be trouble. It's just how we respond to it.
Speaker 1:I'm always talking about how important it is, even like I always talk about my babies, my kids. I'm teaching them so many things that I myself didn't know or understand, because the way that you respond to a situation matters, the way that you respond to God's no or not. Now that's big Like, are you just going to go off and do whatever it is that you want to do, or are you going to wait? Are you going to, in this uncertain situation, are you going to trust him 100% to say and have faith in his word that whatever you say is what it's going to be? But it's like you were saying, it's really hard to do that and I think the whole purpose of me even wanted to have this conversation is to relate to you all and let you know you're not by yourself, like you're.
Speaker 1:This isn't one of the, because I don't have all the answers, and this isn't like a one of those. Hey, I'm trying to teach you all something I hope you get some healing out of this but really is to let you all know that you're not by yourself when you're in a place of uncertainty and you don't know what's going to happen next. You don't know if your health is going to get better. You don't know if your bills are going to be paid. You don't know if you can put gas in your car, whatever it is. You don't know what's going to happen.
Speaker 1:But to your point, you press forward Like you continue to keep going, no matter what, what your odds are, whatever's thrown up against you and I know the enemy wants us to stop it Like even thinking about our businesses and the things we're doing to change people's lives. Like that's big. Yeah, you're bringing people closer to God, you're breaking them from strongholds. There's so many things that we're doing. The enemy don't like that. But God, you told me this. So, because you told me that I'm going to be doing this, I have to decide. I'm either going to give in to the pressure and the persecution and the naysayers and you don't need to be doing this and this is not for you. I mean, I can either give in to that or I'm going to continue to press forward and be an overcomer. We get to choose to be overcomers and it's really hard to do that.
Speaker 1:I think we've said it so many times, opening up how hard this actually is. But y'all and us, like the, the way that you feel when you stand firm oh my gosh, like there's this sense of not only release from the chains, but you there's like this peace and joy that you feel when you get to the other side of what, of what was so uncertain, yeah, like the joy that you feel when it's just like I stood on business, enemy didn't win, okay. Like whenever you get to the other side and even overcoming yourself when you get to the other side, there's just this level of gratitude that you have where it's just like. This is why I'm supposed to trust you and this is why I'm supposed to have faith. This, right here, right there. The outcome of having faith is building more faith. It is.
Speaker 1:I can think back to when I bought my house. The whole situation around that was so crazy, like it was so evident that God's favor was all on it. It was insane, actually. But just to speak to what it looks like on the other side of it, like going through that process of buying my house, um, I had no idea what the outcome would be. I had a lot of fear around it. I had a lot of, you know, beliefs that were kind of negative about my ability to do it, about being able to, about being able to afford it, like all of the things Right. And as I submitted myself to the process which is one of my new prayers to God it's like, lord, I submit to your process. Like, whatever you got to do with me, whatever you're doing, I submit myself to your process. Like I'm not going to fight you.
Speaker 1:But at that time I was submitting myself to the process and as I was obedient to what I heard God saying that he wanted me to do every day, I woke up. Things just started moving one step in front of the other, one step in front of the other. If I had looked five months before then I wouldn't have predicted that things would have been in that space, right? So by the end of it, the way that everything came together, it was just a lot of favor. Things moved a lot faster than usual and other people were commenting on that and by the time I got to the end of it I was able to turn around and look at how all of the pieces came together to bring me to that place. All of the moments of uncertainty, all of the circumstances that were around it. That seemed like maybe it's not the time. Maybe you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Like in hindsight, you look back and you're like, wow, I'm so glad that I trusted God through this, because now I see what he can do With my very little, with my very little, not even believing fully because I'm not going to front. Like I wasn't walking through the process thinking like, yeah, this is going to happen, I know the Lord is going to do it. Trust, that's not word out what it was. That is not what it was. It was like I'm gonna say something. A lot of times we think that once you hear from God, you, you get a peace and in some situations that's true. I heard the answer from God and I remember having a lot of anxiety as I was still taking the steps, like when I was signing the papers that I'm gonna make, make this purchase. I was like I'm going to pay these bills, how am I going to make it? Yeah, oh my God. But the only reason I was doing it was because he said yes. He said go. And he didn't even say it in a direct way. He came with one of them, little parables Like God, god, tell me exactly what to do. And it was just like he just gave me one piece and that's another part of it.
Speaker 1:As believers, we have to like come to terms with the fact that god is not going to show you the full picture. No, it's not going to happen. He's not going to show you what's on the other side of this step. He's just going to say take the step. You got to trust, do this, yeah. And you want to know how it's gonna work out, when it's gonna work out. Is it gonna work out with this person? Is it gonna work out with that business? Is it gonna? You want to know all of these details, but you're only gonna get a little bit like and I think that's the hard part because we like to feel like we're in control of our lives.
Speaker 1:We like to feel like, even with people using horoscopes and stuff, like you're trying to be able to predict or anticipate what kind of relationship you have with another person, who another person is based on their sign, because you want to have some level of control. You want to have some level of knowledge that gives you leverage in the relationship. That's what you want, but with God, it is this constant cycle of surrendering, surrendering, surrendering, not being in control. Things are still working out in my favor, surrendering, not being in control. Things are still working out in my favor, but I wasn't in control. And the reason why I believe in most cases is because you can't take the credit for it when it's done. You're my child, I'm the dad. I'm going to take care of you, but you have to allow me to. You can go out here and get it on your own and put all the work in that it takes to do it, but if I'm going to take care of you, you have to trust me.
Speaker 1:When you're a kid and you're living in your parents' house, you don't have nothing to do with how them bills get paid. You don't make no rules in that house. You just there. That is what it is with God. You don't get to decide a whole lot other than what you're going to do, because, even as a kid, your parents can't make you. They can give you incentives, they can give you punishments, but ultimately you still have free will to choose what you want to do and you'll get punished or you'll get you know, praised or incentivized, whatever you choose to do. But it's the same thing with God. You're not in control. You don't get to say how, when, where, who, you just get to choose whether I'm going to submit myself to this process or not.
Speaker 1:And again, it's easier said than done, but I think this belief that we have, that I'm going to come to Christ and all of my dreams are going to come true and my life is going to be this thing where I'm going to be happy. That is not the purpose of life to be happy. The purpose is to be in his will, that his kingdom in heaven may manifest in the earth. The purpose is to win more souls to him. And in order for that to happen because you are not the author and finisher of anything you have to be a part of a process. This is not the Tiara Sade story. This is his story and I'm a part of it. So I have to submit myself to the process of that and it's difficult. But the faith is I don't understand it, it doesn't make sense. Or I don't like it, because sometimes faith is in him saying no, no, I thought I was doing this, this is what I want to do. I've always wanted to do this. This is my dream. No, and then being okay with the no, I don't agree, and that's the thing.
Speaker 1:When your parents set a rule, the requirement was not that you liked it. It's never been. That, I mean some parents is a little over the top. They want you to smile. You can't even be in your room kicking and screaming Like they're going to come in the room. What you said Like, but for the most part, in a healthy household, you don't have to like it. I heard you say something yeah, what was that? Who are you talking to? Nobody, oh, so I'm nobody. Don't slam my door, don't close my door, ok, what is it? How do we all grow up in the same house? Right, but the requirement is not that you like it or agree with it or understand it Like, the requirement is just that you do it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, faith is a verb like, it's what you're doing. Yeah, and you can be like, like lord, I don't know what this is like, I have no idea how it's going to come together, but I try. I say that so much, lord, I trust you. Yeah, that is my, that is my friend. Like, oh, this don't mean lord, I trust you, yep, that's it, that's it, that's, that's just, that's doing it. That's the sticky note in my office. It says God, I trust you. That's been the sticky note I've had to have for a while and I just have to have it because that's the reminder that I trust you so much so that, no matter what happens, I'm going to trust you, no matter how much these people get into my nerves. I trust you because I'm here for a reason. I'm here for a reason. I'm here for a reason.
Speaker 1:I learned, not not necessarily this year, but um, as I have strengthened, like my, my faith, walk with god, like what it means to have, like childlike faith. Because kids are like I love my baby so much I ain't gonna cry on this episode, y'all but they really are so trusting and so loving and so like, well, my mama said, or my daddy said, and they really do, they want the unicorns and the rainbows and all the sunshine, like the, the amount of trust and faith that they have, like even in us as their parents. Like I understand it more now, like even watching my children, because when you, as the mom or dad, say something, they hold on to what, mom, you said you were going to do this and they're, of course, expecting you to do it, but they also know that you're there to protect them. So when I look at my kids, the relationship they have with me and my husband, and then I'm thinking about the relationship they have with God, like you said so many things, and you're there to protect me and to love me and to guide me, I believe that. I believe that I know that I got some ways and you have this plan for me. And sometimes I do a little bit too much, because that's we're just that, it's just in us. And to know that I am believing in you, like not if, when or, but it's just I believe you and I trust you.
Speaker 1:Like, yes, we talk about how hard it is, but when you have, like when you think about our kids and you think about children in general, like they really do trust you, and it can be a little scary sometimes me. So we see we have to teach children, you know, stranger danger and things like that. There has to be some set of boundaries there to teach them that. But like having the faith and the belief that they have in God, like the, the changing point for me. It just took so much of the stress and the anxiety. It doesn't change the fact that I'm, you know, thinking about it sometimes, but I don't think about it as much, I'm not sitting in. Okay, what's going to happen next? What's going to happen next? I remember how much anxiety I used to have with the kids even getting on the school bus.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness, talk about the amount of control that you want to have when your children are like leaving you and they're going somewhere else and when you just kind of release and just know that. Now let me just say this there has to be, like I said about boundaries, but there has to be some set of provisions in place and understanding of like safety. Of course you know what I'm saying, like with children, and understand. I feel like there's a responsibility even for ourselves. There still has to be something set up to where we're just out here living crazy and we're not just going to jump off this bridge like there. There has to be some a limit there. But when you release the need to control it all and to have all the steps written out step one, step two, step three, when you like, let go of that thought process, it changes a lot of things. But kids really are a really great example of what it means to trust and really have faith and really sit and believe that. Ok, this is what you said, guys. So I'm going to really believe what you said, because you said it. Yeah, literally that.
Speaker 1:What's your favorite scripture? Jeremiah? Jeremiah, 29. 29 and 11. Yeah, your plan for me is to prosper me, not to harm me, to give me a hope and a future me. Not to harm me. To give me a hope in the future, like if I really believe that and I know that I've gotten instruction from you to do something that is extremely uncomfortable out like, just out from left field, yeah, but if I ultimately believe that you would never leave me somewhere with the purpose of causing me harm, not to say that I won't be uncomfortable, not to say that I won't be uncomfortable, not to say that I won't feel challenged, but you would never lead me somewhere for the purpose of me falling apart and becoming all the way undone, even when God breaks you. Like I'm doing it because I'm trying to bring you to a place where you can be whole there, right, yeah, yeah. Like he's not. He's not out to get you. And like you're talking about with your kids. Like that's the same dynamic that children have with their parents. Like if their parents tell them something, even though I want to do, my parents not gonna hurt me. Like that's my mama. They want what's best for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, it's a lot of stuff. We complicate, we try to read all these books and go to all of these conferences and workshops to spend all of this money I'm even thinking about in business. Like you're going to all of this stuff, paying for all of this stuff and I'm not saying that there's not. You know investments that we need to make when we're doing it, but you're trying to wait for somebody to tell you something to make you feel ready to make a move. Like there's not going to be a speaker that's going to say something that's going to change everything. If that is what you're supposed to be doing, if that is what God's called you to do, you just got to get in there and start with what you have. Yeah, because sometimes we be trying to sit around and collect information until we feel comfortable and collect, you know, people backing us up and supporting us and saying, yeah, you can do this, and we try to collect all of these things, even all of these resources. It don't take all that.
Speaker 1:The first time that I taught a class, I made an announcement and I built it. As I taught it, each week I would meet, I would teach, and then that same week, for the rest of that week up until the next time we met, I would put the rest of the stuff together. I had attended all kinds of stuff, trying to get the courage to do it, trying to like maybe if I learn this, or trying to just gather all of these things, but usually with God and I'll share this really quick with God I can tell that God is in a big decision that I have to make. When he doesn't leave me a lot of time to make the decision, when he doesn't allow me enough time to have to really sit down and map out and figure out some of the major decisions. And buying my house and going back to school and all of this Like it's been decisions where I had like a day to say yes or no and I feel like I need to calculate, find it like I have, and it's like you have a day to make a decision and it'll be something that God had already spoken to me about, and then, when it comes down to doing it, you got one day to make a decision.
Speaker 1:That's how I know, because he's like I don't need your, your calculations, you gathering the resources and gathering like you don't need that, you just need to do it. And then I've learned that, even because it's always this fear of like making the wrong decision, even if this is the wrong move, if I'm coming to God with it, if I'm presenting it to God, if I'm sitting with God on this, the word of God says I believe in Isaiah that he will go before you and make your crooked path straight, because I'm doing it out of submission to him, not just going out here, running out here, doing stuff, this stuff and a lot, of, a lot of times, this stuff that we've been sitting with for a long time, it's just, it's go time, it's time to just do it. You spend more time thinking about doing it, calculating all the risks, thinking about all the stuff you need to do, the stuff you need to get, and it's so much faster to just do it when you, when you set your hand to the plow, it don't even be taking as much work as you thought. That's what I have experienced. Oh my, you make it bigger in your mind.
Speaker 1:I, I said something a few years ago on social media um, faith, fear complicates what faith. What faith simplifies. Fear complicates what faith simplifies. The devil really is in the details. You don't need the details, you just need to do what you were told to do. That's it, girl. I'm over here thinking fear Literally, and then you started to say Fear complicates it. Fear. That's one of the biggest reasons why, like we're, you know, we always hear faith over fear. Choose faith over fear. We say it, people say it. What does that even mean? It's actually a decision based on. I mean, we already talked about this. I am choosing faith over fear, meaning God I'm going to trust whatever you said I'm going to is going to do it, and enemy get behind me because I'm not afraid.
Speaker 1:But you have to put fear on trial. Yeah, as simple as that. You put the fear on trial and you have to begin to find evidence of this fear being real. And past failure is not evidence either. Just because you failed before does not mean that you're you're just doomed for failure every single time. It doesn't mean that past failures and all those things that have happened before is not evidence that you're going to continue going down that path now. If you choose to do that, that's on you. But at the end of the day, I'm so happy you brought up fear, because that's exactly what I was thinking when you were speaking.
Speaker 1:We are afraid to go that route because we don't know what's going to be on the other side for one. But the fear feels so real and you already have it in your mind that this is the outcome. I already know that this is going to happen. How you know that? I mean, let's be for real. How do you already know that you're going to be unsuccessful? How do you already know that this is not going to work out for you? How do you already know that the bills are not going to be paid or whatever? How do you already know that? I feel like the better route is to choose faith, because I don't know what's on the other side, but I'm going to trust you, god, and I believe you a hundred percent that. Look, you got me and it's okay.
Speaker 1:One thing about fear it cripples you, you're paralyzed by it and you sit in it for way too long. You just triggered me there. Like you literally sit in it for a really long time and all of this time is passing by and nothing is being done. Like you, there's things that you're being called to do and hand raised because I've experienced that being called to something greater than what we are and what God said is we're supposed to be doing. It shouldn't scare you. It's a little scary, but it shouldn't paralyze you. Yeah, it shouldn't cripple you, it shouldn't stop you. It shouldn't put you in a place of just being a standstill, like you frozen in time. It's not supposed to do that. For sure it is a little weighty. It does feel like you don't know. God, are you really calling me to do this Because you're not doing it in your own strength? You're not. You can't, not even a little bit. Yeah, you can't. You can't do it. So I'm so glad that you touched the stuff that God assigns.
Speaker 1:It challenges the parts of you that are in the dark man. It challenges your rejection. It challenges your abandonment, it challenges your pride. It challenges like it challenges everything in you and it is scary. It is Because it is not something that like there's no shortcuts with God, like the stuff that you want to bypass and just get to the good stuff, like baby. This is a real journey. There's no shortcuts. So there are parts of it that it is scary to start going to therapy and dealing with your childhood trauma. Absolutely, it is scary to you know, commit yourself to another relationship when the other ones have failed. It is scary to have a child or be pregnant for the first time. It is scary to you know, commit yourself to another relationship when the other ones have failed. It is scary to have a child or be pregnant for the first time. It is scary to start a business. It's scary to do a lot. It's scary to get in the car in Houston. Honestly, it's scary to drive out here. It's scary, it's very scary.
Speaker 1:It is yeah, but when God calls you to something, even like the fact that we are alive, we're only alive, not because we eating right, because that's what our bodies are supposed to do. It's because God decided that you would be alive right now. He chose that, that you would be here right now has nothing to do with you and how well you take care of your body, it has nothing to do with that. You're here because God wants you here, because he's not done with you. He's not done. Using you, he's not done. Training you, he's not done. You know, whatever it is that he has for you to do here, he's not done. That is why you're here. He's the author of all of it. And I think when we take ourselves out of it because the fear is a real thing like it is, it's a real thing. But when you take yourself out of it and you think about who, what the purpose of all of this is, you're not just starting a coaching business or a traveling business.
Speaker 1:I believe that a lot of us that are called even therapists some people in our own families are called to this, some people that are coaches and things like that, when you're called to those things, it's because you are called to be a deliverer. You are called to deliver people from one mindset, one place to another place. That is an extreme assignment to have. That's not a light thing. Can you start that over? Start that thought over, okay, because that music just threw me off. I know I was trying so hard to push through. No, but start over from when you're called to be a coach. I think that's the part. So when you're called to be a coach, you're having a coaching business, and I think a lot of people it doesn't have to be an occupation, it could be that's just your role in the family or whatever.
Speaker 1:You're not just called to help people solve their problems. That is the anointing of a deliverer. Now we know that there's deliverance, but there's a deliverer like Jesus is the ultimate deliverer, right. And then we also have like Moses was a deliverer, right. You are called to deliver people and to take them out of bondage, captivity, one place into a new place with a new mindset, with a new perspective, a new way of looking at things. That is not a light thing. God gets the glory out of that because his people are no longer bound. That is not something that anybody can do in their own strength. That is so good. So, looking into doing it, that's not something that you just like oh yeah, I got this, I can do this, because then when you start the process of it, you realize I'm bound, I need to be freed. Yes, you learn so much about yourself. Yeah, but yeah, this, this, this was so good. This was good.
Speaker 1:If I have to my overall thought based on this, these episodes are always talk therapy for me. Yeah, like episodes like this, it feels a little more, it feels more heavier, but it's always talk there because I'm little. Do y'all know? A lot of our episodes come out of real life things. Really all of them come out of like real life experiences and maybe things that we're actually really going through, and this year was a test of faith for me.
Speaker 1:Like this year was a test of faith for me. Like this year was a test of do you really trust me? Like, do I a hundred percent trust you? God, this is what this year has been for me. It's been a hundred percent. Are you all in or are you not? Because you can't be here sometime trusting me and then other time not? You can't allow the fear to overpower you. You're going to have to fight back. You're going to have to take care of your well-being. You're going to have to do things in order to do what I have called you to do. That's what this year has been for me. This year has been. You're going to have to let go of control. You're going to have to trust me 100% and that does not look like you putting your hand in the pot. Move out the way. I'm going to pop your hand because I got it. That's what this year has been, and it's one of those things where I thank God for being as gracious as he is and as patient as he is and not leaving me with my raggedy self.
Speaker 1:Because we do the absolute most. We go back and forth so many times and he's laid out the plans for us, he has the blueprint, but we're not trusting. We want the control, and even in our businesses. I know I didn't feel like a success in my coaching business because I'm like, well dang, I'm trying to help people and I don't know, maybe they don't want to be helped. The business isn't for me. And let me take a step back. I was looking at myself as if I'm not doing something because maybe there's no results. My identity wasn't supposed to ever be in my business anyway. It was never for me. It's still not for me. I don't have a planning business and all these things other businesses I got. I don't do that because it's for me, it's not for me.
Speaker 1:So all of the faith, I mean all of the fear that we have. We get to choose and it's so scary being 100% transparent. It is scary to have 100% trust and faith. Like that's no joke, like that is not something where you just people do it really well. But we're real and refined here. We're real here and let's keep it 100. Like it is a very real feeling, but it's fleeting. Yeah, it does not last all the time. Joy is internal. The fear and all the other stuff that comes along with that. We can overcome that.
Speaker 1:So in my closing thought, it's just to challenge the fear that you have in this place of uncertainty. Really think about why am I afraid? Like what is it? I know we think about why we're afraid, but challenge it. You know, whatever it is that you're afraid of right now in this place, if you are feeling uncertain, sit with God for one. And I know we always hear choose faith over fear. Like T-shirts be saying faith over fear and I what does that even mean? Until you actually in it? Yeah, and you have to choose faith for real over fear. Make that choice. Make it today Like it's going to be so powerful when you decide like, like.
Speaker 1:I no longer want to be bound by fear. I choose to take the shackles off. I no longer want the limiting beliefs and the negative self-talk. I put it all down because we're offered it. Let's be there too. It's offered. Do we want to pick it up? Is the question. Do we want to accept it? So that's what I leave y'all with y'all. Do we want to accept it? So that's what I leave y'all with y'all? What do you got? T my final thoughts. I'm just going to echo what I've already said Fear complicates what faith simplifies.
Speaker 1:Going back to Jeremiah 29 and 11, like, god's plan for you is to bring you a hope and a future, and I also want to stick a note in there that, um, that doesn't mean that the process is always going to be pretty. That doesn't mean that you're always going to be comfortable, that you're always going to feel good. It doesn't mean that you're not going to be challenged. It was the Holy spirit that led Jesus into the wilderness. So there are seasons where you need faith through that, um. But yeah, ultimately God's plan for you is good, um, but yeah, ultimately God's plan for you is good, um, and I mean as somebody who is navigating that space currently, yes, I have to choose number one, to immerse myself in the word of God and not just to do this religious practice of reading the Bible. But it is to remind me he's in control, he's got the power to do this. It's not lost upon him what I need or what I feel like I need, my emotions are not irritating to him. He's taking all of that into account. He has considered everything.
Speaker 1:So, in building up your faith, choose to submit yourself to whatever the process is, whether it's the process to transition into entrepreneurship, the process to transition into another season of your marriage. If it's the process, transition to motherhood. Whatever it is, if it's a trying time, submit yourself to the process. You don't have to be feeling it, you don't have to. You don't have to be feeling it Like. You don't have to like it. You don't have to understand, you don't have to agree with it. To just submit yourself and trust. Yeah, I mean, that's, that's all I got. It's tough, but God has already given us all that.
Speaker 1:We need to do it and I believe that as you start trying to submit yourself to building your faith, God is going to meet you where you are and he's going to start to show you evidence that you're on the right track, because sometimes all he's waiting for we feel like we pray and he's not saying anything. Sometimes all he's waiting for is that shift in mindset for us to. You know what I need? To seek out God, or I need to believe or trust God's word on this, and sometimes it's not a rhema word that we want. Sometimes you just need to get in that Bible. Sometimes it's the logos word that you got to hang on to until you get to a better place in your situation. But that's it.
Speaker 1:I hope that whoever is in a tight spot, whoever is in a bind Nate, I'm in a bind, nate, I'm in a bind, nate I hope that you know that god is for you. Um, he's not if you're in a tough spot. You're not there forever. He's not there to hurt you. He's not there to try to break you. He's only trying to mold and purge you so that you can be more like him and you'll be more effective in winning souls to his kingdom and doing his work. And he wants you, he wants all of you. That's so good. Are you the rapper rapper? Today, I can be the rapper rapper.
Speaker 1:We hope that y'all are having the greatest week ever, or you have the greatest weekend ever and we love y'all. Like trust God. All of this is to edify us and you For real and to just be that reminder to just remember who God is and also to know that you are not alone, like in whatever it is that you're dealing with, there's somebody else that is just like you. There's somebody else out there that is dealing with the same thing. So you're not alone and God is for you. And have an amazing week, cause I said so, love y'all. Bye.
